tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892445584591819741.post3423533731337701184..comments2023-04-17T09:19:20.947-07:00Comments on the beginning of wisdom: showing honor on mother's day (even when it's hard)jen wilkinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02934053593868428344noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892445584591819741.post-8035432546777843172013-05-20T15:40:23.227-07:002013-05-20T15:40:23.227-07:00I think you do honor your father just by walking i...I think you do honor your father just by walking in continuing forgiveness toward him, even if he has no contact with you. That is no small thing. If there are ways to establish contact on healthy terms, you can continue to pursue them as you are able. I know that is a hard, hard thing. I have a sweet friend whose father sounds a lot like yours - cut off relationship with her and her children for almost a decade. As she was able, she re-established relationship with him and introduced him to her kids. He died suddenly, and she felt great peace knowing that, as far as she was able, she had reached out to him. I can tell that you care deeply about this - trust that the Lord sees your heart. <br /><br />When you reach the limits of your ability to reach out to your actual father, you can turn your eyes to the spiritual fathers the Lord has placed in your lifer. By honoring them, and by honoring the father of your own kiddo's, you bless your Heavenly Father and fulfill the fifth command. I believe the "functionally fatherless" learn and enjoy the fatherhood of God in a special way. I am praying that for you. :)jen wilkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02934053593868428344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892445584591819741.post-55429593196323478872013-05-20T15:11:50.598-07:002013-05-20T15:11:50.598-07:00Now that Fathers Day is coming up I'm reading ...Now that Fathers Day is coming up I'm reading this in that light. My mother and I are close and have a wonderful relationship. My relationship with my dad is quite the opposite. <br /><br />My parents divorced when I was in high school & I have a strained and very distant relationship with my father. Meaning...we have a relationship to the degree that I reach out. B/C often times our discussions become unhealthy and sometimes abusive, I stopped reaching out. Needless to say...I don't have a relationship with my Father. He has 6 grandchildren and doesn't know one of them.<br /><br />I can look back at my childhood and apply the 1st scenario and walk in grace & forgiveness. What I struggle with now is walking in that same forgiveness day to day as he is alive & well and pursues no relationship with me or my children. Do you have any wisdom to share regarding honoring the parent that is alive but non-existent?The Faris Famhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05678019935643656221noreply@blogger.com